Triangulation

Triangulation is another trick of Narcissistic Mothers.

It involves creating a situation where two people, e.g. two siblings, do not relate directly to each other, but mostly relate via the mother.

This triangulation gives the mother lots of power, of course, and means that she controls the flow of information, the interpretation of that information, and the nuances of it.

It also means that she gets lots of Narcissistic Supply from it because everybody is relating to her, rather than to each other and cutting her out of the loop.

It can be easy to put siblings into a triangulation situation. She has possibly already divided them by making one a Golden Child and the other a Scapegoat.

She'll say things like, "Oh, your sister was asking how you were. I told her you were fine, but that Jimmy's having trouble in school." 

And you, well-trained, might say, "That's nice of her to ask after me - do tell her I was asking after her."

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