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Treating NarcissismTreating Narcissism is a waste of time. It doesn't work. Narcissists don't want to be cured. It makes sense really - would you want to be cured of being perfect? Would you want to be cured of being above all these messy emotions others have and which make them so vulnerable and open to manipulation? Would you want to give up your position as a superior wonderful person? No? Well they don't either. Narcissists very, very rarely present for therapy, and I venture to suggest, never of their own
will. The only way they'll end up in therapy is if it's court-mandated for some reason. And then they see it as a
challenge to see if they can fool and manipulate the therapist. By definition anything a Narcissist does is right (in her own eyes of course), and therefore There. Is. No. Problem. And if you think there's a problem - well! You're the one with the problem! You're imagining things. You're looking for attention. You're crazy. The details of what they might accuse you of will vary, but one thing's definite - they're perfect, you're the one who's crazy even to suggest they're less than perfect. So my advice is to give up on the prospect of treating narcissism, and to concentrate your efforts on protecting yourself. Your options include going No Contact which means just never having anything to do with her again. It's a very valid option. It has its own challenges of course, extricating yourself from their clutches (especially if she's an engulfing narcissistic mother), but it's hugely rewarding. The other option is to learn how to deal with her. Again, this isn't easy, but it's much easier to deal with her once you understand the parameters a narcissistic mother operates within, rather than trying to deal with her like a normal person. So, No Contact, or dealing with her in a specific way, are the best ways, for a layperson, of treating narcissism.
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