About This Website
I want to state very clearly what my aim, motivation and 'agenda' is for setting up this
website.
Since coming to the conclusion that my mother is a narcissist I have been exploring information
on the web, and have found some very good ones. But they all seemed to stop short of the healing stage. They were
great when I was at the finding-out-about-it-stage, and the obsessing-stage, and the information-gathering-stage.
But they didn't seem to go any further than that.
I'm a very solution-oriented person and so I wanted to recover from being the daughter of a narcissistic mother,
and move on and reclaim my life.
Indeed, I had already been doing so. For many many years I have been searching for answers and resources so I could
heal myself. I knew something was wrong (I thought it was wrong with me, of course), even though I didn't have a
name for it.
And I was lucky enough (in the 'the harder I searched the luckier I got' sense of lucky) to have discovered
EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique.
When I first came across it I was SO sceptical. It looked silly, and it was totally
counter-intuitive that something so simple (and silly!) could work. But it cost nothing to give it a try and so,
making sure nobody could see me, I tried it.
And it was a REVELATION. The power of this simple silly-looking technique was phenomonal. Blew my socks off, it
did.
I learned the process better, originally just to heal myself, but the more I got into it the more I realised this
was too good to keep to myself, and so I trained, and have worked, as a practitioner for about six years now.
And so we come to the N-realisation - and I realise that EFT is the perfect tool to help heal being the daughter of
a narcissistic mother.
I truly feel that a lot of things in my life, which I thought were unconnected strands, have led to this point - to
sharing EFT with other such Daughters.
I have been lucky because my mother was far less extreme of a narcissist than many, so perhaps I didn't have as
much healing to do, and also I have done so much healing with EFT over the years, even without knowing about
NPD.
I have been a mess. I have been a total basket case. I am, to be frank, still on that journey. But I can fairly
say, I think, that I am a reasonable distance along this journey, which is why I feel that I can, in all integrity,
be somewhat of a guide. The combination of being a DONM myself, along with the skills I have learned, in EFT and
other things, put me in a very specific situation.
This isn't the journey I thought I'd be on. I never planned to set up a website/forum. I was doing
other things, things that were important to me. And I'm neglecting them, to some extent at least, to do this.
I'm not looking for sympathy or pity! I'm so excited to be doing this too. It's such important work and I am
thrilled to be able to help, in whatever small way, other DONMs. But I AM saying that this website/forum is
something which has come to me rather than me actively seeking it.
And so, what I have in mind is this:
I want this website/forum to be very rich in resources to help DONMs heal. It's not about a pity-party - although
there's surely a place for that too. Better maybe to say that it's not about being stuck in a pity-party. it's about recovering and healing, and having the life and being
the woman you were meant to have and be.
One of those resouces is EFT. But I have in mind others as well,
from other women. And I'm sure more will come to me/us.
This website/forum will have a commercial element. I need to make a living, and if I can make a living from this
then I can concentrate on it, on providing time and resources - including free resources - and researching
other resources. So it's a win-win. It's even more of a win-win because the way I would look to earn money from
this website/forum is by offering EFT to you, so that you would be healing from DONMism.
If I recommend other resources I may or may not be receiving a commission for that recommendation.
But my absolute guarantee to you is that I will not recommend anything I don't wholeheartedly stand over. I will
not recommend something unless I'd be happy to recommend it for free.
I intend to run this website and forum in an ethical and honourable and open way.
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